Being hurt by the person you love is really a very sad and painful thing. I felt betrayed and used. I always asked myself what I had ever done wrong to deserve such hurt and pain. I was really angry with him and also with myself for believing in all his cosmic lies and for entrusting my heart to him. I really feared the possibility of letting another person into my life again and letting myself fall for that person because I may experience being hurt again.
For three years, I remained single primarily because of my fear of being hurt again. It’s not as if I didn’t enjoy being single, especially with all its benefits and advantages; it’s just that being single and independent for the past years has made me realize that I’m stronger than what I think, than what I give myself credit for. Being a single and independent woman for these past years has made me gain a lot of perspective in love and in life.
After I moved on and all my hurt and pain were healed by time, I realized that I should never let myself be afraid of falling in love again. I should have never let the possibility of being hurt stop me from loving and from caring for somebody else. This is because pain is a part of love as much as night is a part of day. Pain is essential for us to grow more in our relationship; pain is needed for us to learn more valuable lessons and for us to reevaluate and rebuild ourselves; it’s needed for us to become more mature and wiser with our decisions. Pain makes us stronger.